Started playing Stardew Valley 😏
I ran out of thread at an interesting point in my punch needle. I present Krobus with a nose
What are the first three tags that come up when you type in ‘fucking’?
Kinda in love with the idea that different places on other sides of the world can look so similar. Something something universal human experiences
Like. Kyrgyzstan and Switzerland?
Miami and the Gold Coast (in Aus)
New Zealand and Oregon
The great plains and the Russian steppe
India and fiji
Gonna consolidate a couple additions/recommendations from others
Napa Valley, California and Tuscany, Italy
Appalachians in America and the Grampians in Australia
Black sand beach in Iceland and New Zealand
Aurora borealis and australis
Congo and Amazon rainforest/river
desert roads in Australia, South Africa, Argentina, and Mexico
Mountains in France and Korea
I’d divorce him too lmao
sustainableseparatists
sisyphereantask
It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.
Basically!
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.
Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.
I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.
When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood.
Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested. Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid.
“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”
“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”
And if you can’t respond to the emotional bid at that moment, let them know you heard them. If there’s a gorgeous bird outside, ask your loved one to take a picture so you can share in it together. But by god, hear them. Tell them they were listened to.
I’M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
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LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
REBLOGGING SO HARD.
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im gonna reblog this everytime i see it ,,
REBLOG THIS ALREADY!
as an asexual,,, what do y’all think the ‘a’ in ‘lgbtqia+’ stands for 😀😀 reblogging at lightning speed handkwkzks
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Hells yeah
adrianne-johansson
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NEWEST UPDATE: I need help buying the meds day by day currently, as I am often stuck with empty packages. Please share this and my newer posts that are pinned. We need to prepare for February’s meds because I have no idea how we are going to get through for the next couple of months, I still can't believe and express the amount of gratitude you all have helped in getting her the meds for last month. We are at 23% of the goal for this month (February), it has been life saving to my family as my mom is the glue that holds everything together.
This February, we will need 500$ after coupons have already been applied- I have developed a friendship with the pharmacist and am working directly with them, they let me buy a few pills at a time for her and we have already applied coupons but it still results to this amount monthly. If anyone can help, share this or donate, it all helps with giving me hope that things will be fine in the end. I just can't wait until she won't need these pills come this summer, as she only needs them for one year.
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For those of you who weren't aware of my situation, this is a screenshot from one of my previous posts where I was melting down, shortly after her heart attack had happened:
And proof of the notice I received earlier last month in regards to a court hearing and possible eviction I could be facing, despite facing discrimination from my landlord for being a GNC woman and a butch lesbian. (I say this because he refers to me as male despite knowing I am biologically and legally female, along with the fact that I never requested the department to refer to me as male at any point.) The case is currently ongoing.
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